So we had a small tiff today, but I don't hold grudges, (especially not against this wonderful man) I was over it within 30 minutes. But this amazing man never takes any chances.. He was logged in but (sleeping afk) just in case I logged in.. and I find him sitting like this. Even if I was mad, how could I possibly stay mad at this incredibly thoughtful man, Now you can understand how he easily stole my heart. ♥ ♥
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WHY? WHY? WHYYYYYYYYY 😤…do our computers have an alarm feature that will only shut off if you manually dismiss it?!?! I love the alarm function—don’t get me wrong. Truly. Both at home and at work, it’s incredibly useful. We all do it: you sit down at your computer, get locked into whatever you’re working on, and suddenly three hours have vanished into the void. At work, I’m required (for safety reasons) to stop what I’m doing every hour and check on my colleagues. So naturally, I set alarms to remind me while I’m busy multitasking. At home, my precious Bella was recently diagnosed with hyperthyroidism 💔, and she needs medication twice a day. So again—computer alarms to the rescue! Especially when I’m deep in SL or hyper-focused on something else. Sounds great, right? |
It was a friend's birthday, and the theme was vampires, since Alex and I love doing costumes, we figured we would take the opportunity to do a photo shoot as well.. and I decided to dabble with learning how to make a simple video from ai enhancements .. The quality isn't the greatest but it's my first attempt ♥
First the Photos : I originally had red eyes and grayish skin but since the pics went the way of Alex biting me, I did some editting lol
This beautiful dress came just in time for a formal party I was invited to, however I am so in love with this dress, that I haven't taken it off! The PBR detail is amazing! Seriously my pic do it no justice. My fiancé says "I can't stop looking at you"!! ♥
Pfft. Don’t be a copycat.
So I’ve seen it in countless profiles—and I’m willing to bet you have too—the infamous lines:
“I mirror your effort—if you don’t care, neither will I.”
“Don’t value my time? I won’t waste it.”
Or some variation of that same idea.
At first glance, you read it and think, “Hell yeah, that sounds fair.” And honestly? I get the sentiment. I really do.
But… if you take a second to dig into it, it’s actually kind of a selfish way to approach relationships.
Think about it—what if everyone lived by that philosophy? Every relationship has a beginning, an end, and sometimes a very messy middle. If we’re all just “mirroring” each other… where exactly does it start? And when things go sideways, whose fault is it?
Joe is having a terrible day and snaps at Jane.
Not cool, Joe.
But if Jane immediately mirrors his energy and snaps right back, what did that actually solve? Maybe Joe’s bad attitude was a cry for help. By returning the same unpleasantness, Jane isn’t being a better friend—she’s just matching the problem.
Jane rarely texts Joe. Joe assumes this means Jane doesn’t value his time. Instead of asking her, he decides to “mirror her effort” and texts less.
Jane notices.
Now she thinks Joe doesn’t want her around.
And voilà—welcome to the vicious cycle.
Let’s be real for a moment. When people announce this whole “mirroring energy” ideology, it’s often just preemptive blame insurance. It’s a way to say, “If this doesn’t work out, it’s not on me.” Most of the time, it’s an excuse to justify returning what we perceive as negative behavior.
And let’s be honest again—if someone is overly happy, bubbly, or enthusiastic, we don’t always rush to mirror that energy, do we? Funny how selective this philosophy can be.
Be YOU.
If you’re happy—be happy.
If you genuinely care about someone and they seem distant or low-effort—be the better person.
We never truly know what someone else is dealing with. And chances are, they might be feeling the exact same way you are… just waiting for a nudge.
If you sense negativity or stale vibes?
Don’t mirror it—address it.
Communicate. Ask questions. Be human.
Don’t mirror negativity.
Be better. ♥
